What does it really take to be happy ?
What does it really take for anyone to be the happiest version of themselves ?
I’ll tell you one thing for certain . Being happy has nothing to do with Walt Disney’s “Happily-Ever-After” , nor does it have to do with a sleeping beauty or a charming prince .You actually have to work hard without expecting a fairy Godmother to come around whenever you get hit with obstacles .
First thing to know is that nobody is happy all the time ! You can’t expect be happy all the time (that’s what being human is about most of the time) , but living a fulfilled life is a very good and logical substitute.
A phrase that I love is “ Misery loves company” though I never seemed to get it before . Leave the unhappy people behind because all they will do is rub off on you eventually . However , make sure you show appreciation and love to all those who care for you and appreciate the unique person you are . Nothing brings happiness more than giving it to others .
Learn to love yourself. That’s one hell of cliché isn’t it? But it works! Loving oneself has nothing to do with self-adoration or narcissism which are a turn off to others. You know you love yourself when you start doing things for YOU ! That can only be accomplished when you let go of your past and stop blaming others of your unhappiness. Don’t blame your parents for making you choose a major you hate or for raising you in an unhealthy environment. If you want to write a book , do that ; if you want to lose weight , change your lifestyle .Just follow your gut and do whatever you feel is right because you have what it takes to do great !
Money is important ; it would be a lie to say it’s not !When you are making enough money to have a decent life , your happiness takes a turn . It’s no longer affected by the amount of money you make (because you are already making enough money) ; it’s simply affected by your optimism !
I’m not saying there’s anything wrong about making a fortune ..However , luxury makes people comfortable , and comfort makes people bored . Bored people are miserable which is exactly what you don’t want to be !
And always remember to smile ,smile ,smile
!! In the midst of your misery , smile and you’ll mood will ultimately shift ! (As crazy and silly that may seem ,it works!)
If there’s anything to remember , always remember this . Just because something seems to make other people happy , it doesn’t have to make you happy . People are very good at pretending to feel great (even if that serves them for a very short time). Only YOU know what you need to be happy !
Until the next post , keep smiling !
Kisses and lots of love ..